Argh!! Drink and DH
Ok - before I got preggas DH and I used to regularly share a bottle of wine - and yes it was far too much per week to the point where I was questioning wether we had a problem with alchohol. Not binge drinking just a realiance on having 1 - 2 glasses a night and not being able to go a night without which causes just as much damage. Anyway - obviously when I got pregnant there was no question that my drinking habits changed and I felt soo much better for it and ironically lost weight even though I was preggas. DHs drinking habits haven't changed - he just finishes the bottle himself now and it's still nightly - he can manage 2 nights booze free then comes in saying he's had a bad day and needs a drink. SO we agreed that when November came he would stop as I'd not forgive him if I had to ring my brother or a taxi if he'd had a drink and couldn't take me to hospital. Has he stopped yet - has he feck and I'm really upset - to the point where I couldn't speak to him last night I had a rant on the phone today and he ashamedly said point taken BUT I'm so concerned he can't do it - I guess it might shock him into realising the problem he has - his mum is what I would class as an alcoholic (drinks alot every eve and can't spend a night without it.) I know we can't drink like we used to when we have baby as well as it's just not worth it but he needs to start now. Sorry - if you managed to get this far thank you. Just so wound up about it and don't know what to do if it continues. x

my first instinct was so what happens when you go into labour then...WHAT if he's over the limit etc etc... with just 2 weeks to your due date he should stop altogether as you could go into labour at any time! I think you are right o question the need to have a drink every night - it may not be a lot but added up it is! You need to have strong words with him - breathing over a baby with alcohol (any alcohol) has issues drawn to it according to much research! I think you may have to "scare" him into stopping!!!!!

defo need him to stop hun this close to due date! I can understand the ritual of a glass of wine..me and dh sometimes do it....Maybe suggest some nice alchohol free wine..so you can both sit and relax..sometimes its the whole motion of sitting chilling with a drink rather than the alchohol IYSWIM?! Best of luck hun xx

I dont think you have a problem with a glass or 2 of wine a night. Before I was pregnant, DH and I would often crack a bottle of red over dinner - Id have a glass or 2, he'd have the rest! He is certainly not having this much now, although he did have a bottle on Sunday!! DH plays darts (classy!!) in the village every Tuesday night, and last night was his last night of drinking whilst playing. His decision, and Im glad he made it. Your DH needs to see that you and your baby are now vitally important and he cant be at the birth if hes had too much drink. Im sure he will come to his senses...... I hope you manage to sort it out very very soon! xxx

I have a number of friends with this habit, they are often £5 bottles and I wonder where they get the money from, a bottle each night then more at weekend. Anyway, I think the biggest thing he can do for you and to prove to himself he can do it is to lay off weekday drinking for the next few weeks. It really does seem pretty common though, so don't beat yourself up about it. One of my friends hubbys was drunk when she went into labour - I would never have forgiven him to be honest. Good luck. x

I stopped Oh having beer in the house before I had Ruby It was only then I started to realise he had a problem before he just drank like all his mates did but when it was taken away from him he drank vodka in secret a 2 or maybe 3 times a week he would be paralletic and he thought no one could tell i used to find him staring into space thinking he was making the tea and staggering across the room it all came to a head a year ago he went out to collect my brothers birthday pressie and 3 hours later wasnt back next thing I had the police ringing me he'd been done for drink driving and smashed up his car that was when I first threw him out he came back in Feb last year and stayed for 3 months but was still drinking he desperately wants to come back but can I ever trust him? Ive never seen him drunk since maybe this has shocked him out of it I just dont know. Sorry for the ramble but my point I think is until its taken away you dont know if you can live without it. Stella

Hopefully after your rant today he's realised just how upset you are over this issue and will stop. I know that I timed my first pregnancy very badly (!) in that I was overdue all over Christmas and of course the Christmas party season but DH and I agreed at the outset that he would not drink (ok apart from one glass now and then but stayung within the driving limit) from the beginning of December. It must have been tough for him as he also likes a drink (as do I!) and we all know that Christmas office parties aren't much fun when you're the only one not drinking! Hopefully you'll find that having your first baby will motivate him to change his drinking habits xx

Thanks for the replies - I'm going to have a proper sit down with him tonight to talk about it. I know it was easier for me because a) I hated the taste in the first few months and b) I can feel the reason for not drinking. I think it's a really good opportunity for him to realise the dependance he has. Thanks again x