Devastated
This isn't quite the right folder for me to post this, but seems the most appropriate. Unfortunately my dh and i have lost our baby. We had our 19 week scan last Monday 18th, and the baby was diagnosed with severe spina bifida. We therefore made the heartbreaking decision to terminate the pregnancy, which happened last week. We are both devastated, but know 100% this was the right thing for us to do, due to the severity of the condition and how badly our beautiful baby was going to be affected - it was on the severe end of the scale. I don't know what to do with myself at the moment, can't face anyone. I feel better today for the first time, and hope that gradually this cloud will lift. All our dreams are gone - this was to be our first baby. I would love to hear from anyone who has gone through similar, please pm me. I just can't begin to imagine how to move forward from this, and how to think about the future and other pregnancies. Beccy

I'm so sorry Beccy I don't have any experience and can't begin to imagine what you and your DH are going through. My thoughts are with you both.... :bighug:

:bighug: Beccy that is truely awful I am so sorry hunny, I can't even negin to imagine how you and DH are feeling but my thoughts are with you both at the difficult time xxxx

So sorry to hear you have to go through this Beccy. Take time out to heal, you know we are all here for you. xx

Awww Beccy, I'm really saddened to hear your news, my thoughts are with you and your DH at this sad time :bighug: xx

hi beccy i am sorry to hear what you have and are going through. i cannot begin to understand how you both must be feeling. Did the hospital not steer you in any direction of help? or offer you some support groups or numbers? I understand that all your dreams have disappeared as i have been through 2 m/c's and know what you mean about that, but hopefully with time, things will heal a bit, become easier, and with some genetic counselling you can have those dreams again hth a little big hugs to you both

I'm really sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts are with you and your DH. Big hugs to you both

HUgs Beccy... So very sorry to hear your news..Im sorry i have no advice but just wanted to give you a virtual hug.. My thoughts are with you and DH at this sad time xxx

So sorry Beccy. Thinking of you and your DH. xxxx

Oh Beccy - I'm heartbroken for you. Thinking of you both. Please make use of us on here - we're all good at listening, and I'm sure I speak for everyone else when I say that we'll all help you in any way we can - just ask ok. I'm so sorry :( xxxxxxxxx

I'm so very sorry Becky. Thinking of you and your DH. Vic D

:sad1: :bighug: I am devastated to hear your news Beccy and can't begin to imagine what you have just experienced in such a short space of time. What a traumatic decision for you to have to make. We are here for you and be sure that you and your husband are there for each other too.

Beccy I am so sorry you had to make this decision. I do hope you continue to feel better. Take care of each other :bighug:

Oh my god Beccy I am so so sorry to hear this. I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling and I can't offer you any advice but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you both. I know this was a much longed for first baby for you and I hope that you can both find the strength to fulfil this dream in the future. Take care x :bighug:

Beccy, I have no other words than 'life is shit sometimes.' Not the most poetic and thoughtful words to say, but occasionally, they're the only words for a goddamn shitty time in your life. I can't make it better for you with words on a screen, but if you ever need to shout, rage or cry anonymously, then I hope you know that we are here for you. A darned fierce cuddle for you and DH. Deakie xxx